The Punishee

Yes, I know the true word is actually "punished".

I've probably talked about this before, but it just keeps coming up. The vicious cycle of THE PUNISHER and THE PUNISHEE.

When two people are really close, expectations tend to exist. Not just speaking of man-woman relationships (see how we have upgraded from boy-girl?), but also between platonic friends. The expectation of sensitivity to feelings. Understanding. Time committment. As such.

When comes expectations, then comes the possibility of let-downs. There's nothing complicated in this equation, is there?

The complication comes in a sub equation.

Expectation = Possible letdown

when "letdown" does occur, "upset" is bound to be generated.
letdown = upset

upset=punishment

punishment=letdown

upset = letdown

and the cycle continues, upset=letdown=upset=letdown=upset=letdown ...

So, what's left is fundamentally just a huge ever growing chunk of letdown and upset, mixed with regret and simultaneously punishment, and other things.

When I talk about punishment, I don't mean making the person kneel on nails and whipping them, but those subtle little slow killers. For example, keeping real quiet when around your partner.

Partner: "What's wrong?"
You (grimmed faced): "Nothing."

Yes, that is, indeed, a kind of punishment. If you are unaturally quiet, you say why. If not, you're upset. And the punishee would be punished, by silent treatment, without even being able to acknowledge that he is being punished.

Seriously, who reads my shite?

(Thanks for reading my shite ha)